“Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts,” said Winston Churchill. He is also said to have said – “Success is stumbling from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm.”
This is one real thumb rule which surely works. Or so a lot of us have learnt and imbibed in our journeys in life. And by a lot of people, we mean those of us who have tasted real success. A sense of self-esteem, of self-worth, a feeling of never-ending spirit to plod on, regardless of the outcomes of small pursuits, is what seems to have fired the belly of such people.
It is important to realize the value of being able to go on in the face of defeat – this is one tested and tried out principle which truly seems the guiding light for those who have made a good going of their lives and times in this world of ours.
Other such golden rules which help a person break the mould and become successful, even way out of turn, include that those who are successful sometimes seem to be able to circumvent the traditional route to success. It is not that the ‘situations vacant’ requirement column of newspapers and magazines tells you everything – learn to bend the rules a bit. Embrace that nonconformity is calling!
You will certainly come out a more experienced person, even if not the ultimate winner of the situation. There isn’t a need to go by a, b, c of the rule book for anything and everything you do, like always. The good lord has given us our brain – utilize the grey matter in it and break the stereotype.
Again, they say the imposter syndrome could be a good thing – those of us who have a feeling of superiority, a sense of insecurity and impulse control techniques are the ones who can really strike it big.
Welcome a slight feeling of inadequacy about your own self if it’s knocking your peace of mind – if nothing else, it may help you become better at what you do since you will strive for it, but a bit more than the others.
At times, what we feel is being realistic is actually lack of know-how and the means and manners to tackle given situation. Try to become all-knowing, embrace knowledge and information. It will help you in heightening your levels of realism.
What seems surreal may actually not be so, but it just has to be peppered up with a dash of a little more data on the subject. All success in this very arena becomes just a matter of time. If you like what you do, work becomes play – we all know this – but bring it on in real life too. Do not let this one quote idle away in the back of your mind. Live by it.
Also, adding to it, in the real world, it is best to have a mentor by your side – thus, learn to pick a job by its boss, not by the company he or she runs. You will stand to gain by the very presence of this one person who is with you in all your endeavors.
Another essential footnote – do not be scared to take on a particular job for the reason of getting experience-rich. Sometimes, a pay cut for what exactly you are about to do will be well worth the end result of learning what you just did. It may aid and abet you in your future work related odysseys.
Always be prepped up for the fact that what it is that has made you a general manager of a firm is but a stepping stone for higher rungs; the same job skills may not help you become the CEO; life is a process of continuous learning – learn the tacts and trades required to cut the grade for the next level.
All you need in this life is ignorance and confidence, then success is sure, said Mark Twain.
For all you know, it may be a clutch of a whole new set of skills you need to be in the know of. Do not scare easy of this – cultivate your aura to welcome change, to embrace newness. In addition, you need to be able to sell yourself – know your true worth and only then will other reciprocate this feeling. Remember, humanity’s most valuable assets have been the nonconformists. Good to say here, NONCONFORMITY, do not bother your zones!
It is important to realize that your set of professional skills can get you to a certain level in life. After this, it becomes essential to be able to interact with those you know and those you do not as well, in a certain positive and striking manner. To be able to jell well with others is a technique most successful people just naturally seem to have. They are always wanted in a group, they always know how to address a gathering; to give a word of advice to those around them who seek it. Do you know what’s backing them there? Learning. And experience comes after that!
Cry, forgive, learn. Move on. Let your tears water the seeds of your future happiness. – Steve Maraboli
This is one life lesson one must take to heart if we are to come out winners in any given sphere of life.
To redeem our previous points further, this too, is a principle one must take heed of. Then again, one must realize that actual education of how to better your own prospects may just happen after you are through with college. Your degree will arm you with all the technical details of what you must know – and this is obviously the base of all your pursuits.
But, your life lesson on how to make it good may come after interacting with scores of others around you. It is essential to be able to stand up and demand attention for the work you have done. Do not let your credit go the company without your byline in it.
The actual triumph comes to a person who has learnt the presence and the importance of knowing there is a side door always open for any given job which comes knocking at his or her door; – there is one path which the world sees for anything and everything which must be done; but another one too surely exists and others around you may not even realize this.
Think of this; try to adjudge where this small, but sure, window in the wall is!
And if you are feeling like an impersonator even when you are not, here’s why. Get rid of it and feel good for one and all, most importantly for your own self!
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